Parenting 102; Communication
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[8/12, 19:09] BaSUG CEO: Oluwabunmi Mercy Ajibojesu
Is a Financial manager, an Author, a certified writer, copywriter and a content creator.
She's a graduate of the University of South Africa.
Where she obtained a certificate in Bachelor of commerce in financial management.
Economics and management sciences level (NQF 5).
And Financial management (NQF 6)
She's the Author of "THE VOICE OF A HELPLESS CHILD"
She's a Sexual puritan and Girl Child advocate.
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[8/12, 19:10] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Good evening everyone🤗🤗😊😊😊
[8/12, 19:13] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: It's a privilege to be here tonight.
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[8/12, 19:16] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Let's get started because of our time😃😀😀
[8/12, 19:17] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Tonight's topic is COMMUNICATION.
Why is communication important to parenting? 🤔🤔
Well, we will get the answer to this question at the end of the lecture.
[8/12, 19:17] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: WHAT IS COMMUNICATION?
[8/12, 19:17] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
Communication is the imparting or exchanging of information by speaking, writing, drawing, and through others means like, (Facial expression, eye contact and so on).
[8/12, 19:19] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: A lot of people know that communication is crucial in relationships like, courtship/marriage/friendship but they fail to understand that communication plays a major and vital role in parenting too.
It's not only partners that needs communication to make their relationship work.
[8/12, 19:20] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: As a parent, you need to communicate with your kids often.
For a child to find you truthworthy and confidable, they need to be communicated with often.
For you to maintain a good relationship with your kids, you need to communicate with them.
You need to ask them, how was your day?
What happened at school today?
Did you make any new friend today?
It's very necessary.
[8/12, 19:21] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: It's not just about loving them, feeding them, buying them clothes, helping them with their homework and overdosing them on cartoons.
[8/12, 19:22] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: I will briefly be explaining the four major ways of communicating.
Which are:
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1. Verbal communication
2. Non-verbal communication
3. Written communication
4. Visual communication
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[8/12, 19:23] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 1. Verbal communication is done through speaking or the use of sign language. Which is one of the most common way of communicating.
[8/12, 19:24] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 2. Non-verbal communication can be done with the use of body language, eye contact and facial expression. Which can be either done intentionally or unconsciously.
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[8/12, 19:25] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 3. Written communication is the use of words and symbols to convey a message, which can either be in writings, typing/printing.
[8/12, 19:26] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 4. Visual communication can be done through the use of Arts, drawings, charts, photographs and so on, to pass an information/message.
[8/12, 19:26] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: We will be needing the first three for tonight's lecture.😃😃😀
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[8/12, 19:28] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: How do you communicate verbally?
✓By sitting your kids down, to discuss your rules and regulations with them.
✓Make them know their assigned duties.
✓ Let them understand that you are always available for their discussion.
[8/12, 19:28] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
[8/12, 19:30] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: How do you communicate non-verbally?
Majority of people born in the 80's and early 90's will understand this better with our African parents😅😅. There are some things they don't need to tell you with their mouth, just an eye contact will do the speaking.
There are some places and instances where you won't be able to communicate with your kids verbally. Non-verbal communication can be very effective in such cases.
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[8/12, 19:33] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: ✓Make your kids understand what you mean with your eye contacts/facial expressions.
✓ Use verbal communication when you should, don't misuse non-verbal communication, because, using them wrongly and frequently than verbal communication might make a child feel unloved, or less of himself.
[8/12, 19:34] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: I hope someone is learning something tonight?
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[8/12, 19:36] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: How do you communicate with writings?
We all know that kids can be forgetful at times, just the same way adults sometimes forget things .
They might forget what you have told them, but trust me, it will be very difficult for them to forget what they see and read everyday.
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[8/12, 19:38] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: ✓Make a list of the do’s and don’t, get a board to pin them on, or paper stickers to stick them on wall for them to see.
(This applies to kids who can read)
[8/12, 19:39] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Your 10 year old child will already know that mom doesn’t like to see dirty dishes on the dinning table or in the sink after eating, because he/she sees it everynow and then on the wall.
[8/12, 19:39] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
[8/12, 19:40] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Your 7year old child will already know he ought to make his bed after getting up in the morning.
[8/12, 19:41] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: ✓ You can also write a note and drop it in their lunch boxes or bags ,if you feel they need to be reminded about something/ how much mummy and daddy loves them, after returning from school.
[8/12, 19:41] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
[8/12, 19:42] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Communication can either be done in a positive or negative way .
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[8/12, 19:43] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: These are some of the effect of a positive communication to parenting.
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[8/12, 19:44] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 1. It helps in building a solid relationship between you and your kids
2. It helps your kids find you Confidable
3. It boost their self-esteem
4. It helps your kids develop emotionally
[8/12, 19:45] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Effects of Negative communication
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1. It delays kids emotional development
2. It delays their social development
3. It erodes their self-esteem
4. It makes kids feel less of themselves and hence gall into depression.
[8/12, 19:46] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Is anyone getting value tonight?
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[8/12, 19:48] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: How do you communicate in a positive way?
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[8/12, 19:50] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 1. TELL THE TRUTH
Majority of parents use LIES/MYTHS as a means of shying away from questions relating to sex education from their kids, which is not the best.
It's best to tell them the TRUTH and explain the right values of Sex before they learn the wrong values.
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[8/12, 19:52] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: A lady once told me how started engaging in sexual intercourse at age 12 and unfortunately got pregnant at age 17.
Her mom had always told her she would fall sick and die if she engage in sexual intercourse, and meanwhile her own best friend had started eating the forbidden fruit and yet she didn't die.
[8/12, 19:53] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: As a curious child that she was, her friend suceeded in convincing her, and guess what? she didn't die afterwards!
[8/12, 19:53] +234 806 981 5083: That is why it is good to tell your kids the true meaning of sex
[8/12, 19:54] BaSUG CEO: "One seeing is better than hundred times telling about."
Old Chinese proverb
[8/12, 19:54] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: According to the lady, she said she stopped believing whatever her mom told her ever since then, until she got pregnant and her mom's had thought she was still a virgin all the while.
[8/12, 19:55] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
[8/12, 19:56] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 2. GIVE EXPLANATIONS WHEN NEEDED
Majority of African parents think they don't owe their kids explanations.
They think Parenting is just about dictating rules and making commands everytime, without you giving reasons why your rules should be obeyed
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[8/12, 19:58] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Growing up as child, I used to be a very curious kid. My curiosity will always lead me to asking questions, and demand explanations sometimes.
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[8/12, 19:59] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: This was an issue with my mom who's Dominant parenting style is an Authoritarian style, although she can sometimes be Authoritative or permissive
[8/12, 20:00] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: I remember how she used to tell my siblings and I to make sure we keep ourselves till marriage, because she got married as a virgin and that, it's one of the best decisions to make.
[8/12, 20:01] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: It was more like her forcing us to keep ourselves. Without giving us any explanation on how the Bible condems fornication, and the physical consequences like, unwanted pregnancy, STDs, HIV, and AIDS.
Although she would sometimes give us reasons not to do somethings, But not with things like fornication or anything that has to do with sex education, she wouldn't!
She just wanted to us to see it as a bad thing.
[8/12, 20:02] BaSUG CEO: Gbabe's theorem😀
[8/12, 20:02] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: I would always tell her it was her personal decision to keep herself, so she shouldn't impose it on us. She used to hit me for saying that or sometimes call me names because it doesn't go well with her.
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[8/12, 20:02] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Yes o🤣🤣
[8/12, 20:03] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Were her instructions enoughreasons for me not to indulge in fornication, if at all I wanted to?
Of course, NO!
[8/12, 20:05] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: All thanks God for some books I was opportuned to read while growing up as a teen.
You don't want your kids to steal?
Explain to them the consequences.
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[8/12, 20:06] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: You don't want your kids to tell lies?
Explain to them the consequences.
Explain to them why it's not the best to do, instead of just keep telling them "it's bad"
[8/12, 20:06] Yc Seyi Achiva: Hmmmm
[8/12, 20:06] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Is anyone getting value Tonight? 😃😃
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[8/12, 20:08] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Let's move to the next point😊❤️
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[8/12, 20:10] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 3. DONT MAKE COMMUNICATION ONE WAY
As a parent, you should always give room for your kids ideas, and suggestions.
Let them think of solutions to problems by themselves. Don't just do the talking or give orders while you neglect their opinion.
Let them brainstorm and come up with ideas and solutions to problem, instead of you always giving them solutions.
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[8/12, 20:14] +234 811 480 5479: If only he was in here. But you can Always teach him
[8/12, 20:14] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
4. BE AN EXAMPLE
As a parent, you should know that how you behave and what do, is a form of non-verbal communication to your kids.
Kids are born imitators and whatever they see is what they will imitate, and not what you tell them to do.
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He'll have to be under her lecture when time comes😁😁
[8/12, 20:15] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Kids are like an empty disc, whatever is being recorded in it is what you will see or hear it playing.
They will do whatever they see and say whatever they hear.
[8/12, 20:16] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Like empty discs*
[8/12, 20:16] BaSUG CEO: She didn't even know if his head is bubbling where he is now🔥🔥
[8/12, 20:16] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Telling lies to people in the presence of your kids will only make your kids become professional liars.
You lie to their fathers about something they know and you don't want them to tell lies?
You must be joking.
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Garbage out.
[8/12, 20:18] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Sooner or later, they will start dishing to you that same thing you dish to others.
And when it doesn't go well with you.
You start chastising them.
Listen,That's a parenting error!
You can't tell your kids what to do and do otherwise.
Be an example of who you want them to become.
[8/12, 20:18] FM L3: You are right ma.
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[8/12, 20:18] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: On this note, I will like to round off the teaching hew and welcome questions😊😊🥰❤️❤️
[8/12, 20:18] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: The room is open for question now.
[8/12, 20:19] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Let's interact😃😃
[8/12, 20:20] BaSUG CEO: Questions please
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[8/12, 20:21] +234 811 480 5479: This has indeed been full of insights and nuggets to make parenting a success for people like me that are not there yet.
[8/12, 20:21] +234 814 956 9619: Wow
I have a question
I have never thought parenting to be this kind
I've always thought of it as simple,,little did I know that it is bombarded like this
Firstly, thanks mummy for your tutoring
My question is... What if the two parents doesn't agree to all this about parenting, what do the other parent do??
[8/12, 20:22] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 😘😍😍🥰🥰❤️😊
[8/12, 20:22] BaSUG CEO: Bravo
[8/12, 20:22] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Agree in what sense?
Do you mean in marriage or with parenting?
[8/12, 20:23] +234 814 956 9619: In the pattern of parenting taught today
[8/12, 20:23] Ofemight: ✌️
[8/12, 20:24] +234 814 956 9619: Like if the mother wants to give the kids chance to speak and the father doesn't support, what should the mother do?
[8/12, 20:24] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: You mean if one of the parent is trying to raise the child well and the other doesn't buy the idea?
[8/12, 20:24] +234 814 956 9619: Yes ma
[8/12, 20:24] +234 811 480 5479: Mummy shuns lies and daddy supports it kinda situation
[8/12, 20:28] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: In that case, the parent will still need COMMUNICATION. He/she will need to communicate with his/her spouse and discuss why such rules should be implemented and how healthy they are.
It's not advisable for them to Start arguing at the child's presence.
One can not say go and the other says come.
No godly parent will do such.
Can two work together unless they agree (Amos 3 v ) if they have agreed and still agreeing to make the marriag work, then that wouldn't be an issue.
Parents is not as taskful and demanding as marriage, it's just a part of the whole thing😀😀😀
[8/12, 20:29] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Amos 3 v 3*
Marriage*
Parenting*
[8/12, 20:29] BaSUG CEO: Amos 3:3
[8/12, 20:29] +234 814 956 9619: Hmmmnn
So agreement in full before marriage is advisable
[8/12, 20:29] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Thank you sir🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
[8/12, 20:30] BaSUG CEO: Jesus will simply say, "a house divided against itself cannot stand."
[8/12, 20:30] +234 814 956 9619: So there are many things to agree on before marriage??
Wow
My focus was on number of kids o🙆♀️🙆♀️
[8/12, 20:30] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: You will have to agree before you say "YES I DO"
And you both will keep agreeing to make it work.
Marriage is not a child's play.
[8/12, 20:31] +234 811 480 5479: Not a child's play indeed
[8/12, 20:31] BaSUG CEO: Let me just add this.
I've said here, and I'd repeat it. You're not married until you have married. Don't go ahead and marry someone who's not your speaking mate. This problem might have no solution if you do
[8/12, 20:32] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: So many things.
That's the essence of courtship
Purpose
Vision
Goals
Belief
And so on...
[8/12, 20:32] BaSUG CEO: That agree and agreeing loud o
[8/12, 20:32] FM L3: Interesting God bless you ma.
[8/12, 20:33] +234 811 480 5479: *Question*
Ma, I have seen almost every parenting pattern fail. Authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. At one point or the other these children just deviate from everything they've been taught, *intentionally*
Why is it usually like this?
[8/12, 20:37] +234 814 956 9619: I have 2 questions remaining
1. How do a parent make his good examples known to the kids when they are both or one side is just too occupied??
I grew up in a setting where before I wake up, dad has gone to work, by the time he returns at night, I'll just sleep on his laps with him telling me stories or sing,when I zoom off,he takes me to bed
Until I became a teenager I hardly noticed anything else or maybe I didn't take note of them then
[8/12, 20:38] +234 814 956 9619: 2. Is this teaching just for today?? Tell me no please😭
[8/12, 20:39] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Thanks for asking this.
I advise parents Everytime.
The best parenting style to adopt is AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING, it's quite different from AUTHORITARIAN.
If at all you want to be permissive, it should only be a few times and not on serious issue.
Kids will always test your limits, that's why you need to be consistent with discipline.
If you ain't consistent, they will keep testing you until you feel like breaking their head.
You can make your research well, kids raised by AUTHORITARIAN parents are the most well behaved and we'll mannerd.
That's the only parenting style with no pittfall because it's about taking discipline serious and be consistent with it. And yet be confidable and approachable.
[8/12, 20:44] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Well, in that case, it's the parents fault that they are not creating time for the kids. Yes, we know they need to find means of survival. But even at that, as a parenting coach I will always advise one of the parents to always do a job that will make them have time for their kids.
Both parents can't be employees, while they go in the morning and return late at night.
It's parenting errors and their absence will make the child make some avoidable mistakes.
It's advisable for one of the parents have a job/business that will give him/her time flexibility.
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[8/12, 20:45] +234 814 956 9619: Thanks ma
[8/12, 20:48] +234 814 956 9619: In a situation where one of your kids isn't going or doing the right thing after all the parenting style,,,that kid just seem different, you've called the kid one on one but no changes,what do we😁😁do as a parent?
[8/12, 20:49] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: You take it to God in prayer.
[8/12, 20:49] BaSUG CEO: 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I'll also add that for us who are not married yet, start saving for the children. And I've told you here before what you should do with your savings. I don't want to go over that again. We've talked about financial management in relationships here before. But you can still get this point I made in the audio I recorded on my birthday last year.
See link below👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
[8/12, 20:49] +234 811 480 5479: This question is so deep, you must ha e oil for asking questions on your head
[8/12, 20:49] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: God bless you sir.
I always tell them this too o😃😃😃💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
[8/12, 20:50] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: I have seen such a case.
It got sorted with prayers.
[8/12, 20:50] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Even when the kids are obedient and we'll behaved, you still need to pray for them often.
[8/12, 20:51] +234 811 480 5479: Let alone when they are hell bent or being the black sheep
[8/12, 20:53] +234 814 956 9619: What of a case where out of all kids, just one is so calm that he or she hardly queries authorities, till extent that the kid doesn't want to open up despite love shown, what role can the parent play in such case
[8/12, 20:54] +234 811 480 5479: Especially when this is not usually the behavior of such kid in the past
[8/12, 20:55] +234 811 480 5479: My brother acted like this for well over 6 months last year. Shut everyone out👌
[8/12, 20:56] +234 814 956 9619: I was once the type, I felt no one would understand me
Thanks to our tutor of the night here❣️❣️
[8/12, 20:56] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Being calm doesn't mean the child shouldn't talk o.
He might be quiet naturally, but trust me.
There are times he would talk.
If he's naturally withdrawing from people then the parent should investigate, the child might be going through sexual, or emotional abuse. Which is making him/her fail to connect with others.
[8/12, 20:57] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: But he was talking.
Just quiet.
Not that he was doing like an imbecile na🤣🤣🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
[8/12, 20:58] +234 811 480 5479: I have a question too
[8/12, 20:58] +234 811 480 5479: Hope you're not tired laidis
[8/12, 20:58] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Go on.
[8/12, 20:59] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: No, it's what I enjoy doing best😀😢
[8/12, 21:00] +234 811 480 5479: Till now we don't know what happened
A day just came and he stopped talking to everyone
Another day just came and he started talking again
[8/12, 21:01] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Then maybe he was emotionally abused, and he felt less of himself.
[8/12, 21:01] BaSUG CEO: They say, not talking is the beginning of misfortune. Aile soro ni ipinle ori buruku
[8/12, 21:02] BaSUG CEO: Please learn to talk if you are not talking o
[8/12, 21:02] +234 811 480 5479: My question,
What do you advice parents do when children they held in high regard disappoints them.
Daughter gets pregnant, son gets arrested, those kind of stuffs
How best should parents handle the situation?
[8/12, 21:02] +234 814 956 9619: Oro Agba🙇♀️🙇♀️
[8/12, 21:02] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Yes o😀😀
[8/12, 21:02] +234 814 956 9619: You have plenty oil for questions oo
Twale
[8/12, 21:03] +234 811 480 5479: Small has dropped from your head and fallen in mine
[8/12, 21:04] BaSUG CEO: One grandma, of blessed memory said, it's better for a man's mouth to be active and have his third leg inactive than have it the other way round
[8/12, 21:04] +234 814 956 9619: Hmmm
Wisdom
[8/12, 21:04] +234 811 480 5479: *clears throat...*
[8/12, 21:05] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Chai!!!!
It's not a good thing to experience, it's Normal for them to overreact but with them they will get calm.
Even at that point, educating the child is such a waste, that's why we advise parents to start educating them from a very tender age and keep educating them so that they don't depart from it.
It should be an ongoing process.
In that case, the deed has been done, the child will know what life is called by his/herself😀😀😀
[8/12, 21:05] BaSUG CEO: She's now Aaron abi?😀
[8/12, 21:05] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Which one is third leg? 🥱🥱🥱
[8/12, 21:05] +234 814 956 9619: Aaroness😁😁
[8/12, 21:06] BaSUG CEO: I don go
[8/12, 21:07] +234 811 480 5479: You know, I've really given thought to this parenting matter.
And I usually think,🤔
What would I do if my daughter came home pregnant one day?
[8/12, 21:07] +234 814 956 9619: 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Was thinking of asking one grandma too
[8/12, 21:08] +234 814 956 9619: Preach message of divine forgiveness😃😃
[8/12, 21:09] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: I rebuke that thought in Jesus name.
Instead think of how she wouldn't gall victims of such.
[8/12, 21:11] +234 811 480 5479: Don't rebuke it o..
Many other people that have been rebuking it are grandparents with their children today.
I don't pray for it, I'm not wishing for it. But if it happens, but should stuffs like that happen, it think parents should forgive their child and help them make the best out of that scar
[8/12, 21:13] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: I still rebuke it on your behalf again
Train them rightly, or you bring the to my mom or me for training😀😀😀😍😍🤣😂
[8/12, 21:13] BaSUG CEO: Lol
Leave me o
[8/12, 21:17] BaSUG CEO: I really want to appreciate you specifically friend @Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu
It's awesome knowing you
I pray that you will not diminish in the journey of life. You'll keep appreciating. You'll not become a burden, but a blessing you will continually be in Jesus' Name
[8/12, 21:18] BaSUG CEO: Once again, on behalf of all our friends here, we love you
[8/12, 21:18] BaSUG CEO: Please appreciate her if you appreciate the class tonight
[8/12, 21:19] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Amen in Jesus name🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙇🏾♀️🙇🏾♀️🙇🏾♀️
I really appreciate this sir
[8/12, 21:20] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: I love you all 🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗😍❤️❤️
[8/12, 21:20] BaSUG CEO: And I want to celebrate you all for making it worthwhile here tonight.
No you, no me
No you, no class
We're only happy and able to do this because you are here.
God bless you all friends
[8/12, 21:20] BaSUG CEO: Let's remain calm here till we come with our next edition
[8/12, 21:22] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Yes, we celebrate you all for participating.
God bless you all richly in Jesus name.
You are all cherished❤️❤️❤️
[8/12, 22:22] +234 810 061 8504: I enjoyed this teaching like kilode tanx to everyone that made it happen💃💃💃💃💃parenthood here i come (haaaaaaa)
[8/12, 23:09] DF Joke: Awesome teaching
Joined in late but gained lots.
God bless you Ma
[8/13, 06:51] +234 703 186 9603: Same here, that was so touchy and electrifying, I pray for grace to apply all this teaching has we journey on in life🙌👌🥰
[8/13, 07:48] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: 🥰🥰😍🤗🤗🤗😊
I'm glad you enjoyed it.
[8/13, 07:48] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Amen🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I'm glad you enjoyed it😊🥰🥰🤗
[8/13, 07:49] Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu: Amen!!!
God bless you🤗🤗🥰🥰❤️
[8/13, 08:15] AC Wale Mokola: God bless u MA for wonderful teaching. And to the CEO,Mr Basug
[8/13, 12:54] Yc Osadunni Samson: So sorry I was unavoidably absent in yesterday's lecture. I just read through now and I must confess, I got values from the teaching. Thanks to the resource person @Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu ma and also to the convener of the programme @BaSUG CEO .
[8/13, 12:59] Yc Seyi Achiva: 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Thank you ma @Mercy for the tutorial and bro @BaSUG CEO for this platform. God bless you all
[8/14, 05:38] Yc Biodun Wix: Thank you very much. @Oluwabumi Mercy Ajibojesu & @BaSUG CEO. You abound in grace & blessing in ur chosen endeavour.
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